If we are honest, we are all in need of growth in at least a few areas. Counseling is the process of meeting together with a mental health professional to resolve problematic behaviors, beliefs, feelings, relationship issues, and or somatic responses (sensations in the body). The goal of therapy is to learn to change self-destructive behaviors and habits, resolve painful feelings, improve your relationships, and more. Dan is trained and experienced in working with an array of individuals and challenges. He will take time to hear your full story and will work with you to develop a plan tailored to you and your goals.
Marriage Counseling & Premarital Counseling
Marriage, more than any other relationship, will expose our flaws. Learning to sacrificially love one another despite those flaws is part of the journey. Doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result will only lead to bitterness and resentment towards each other. It is best to get it all out on the table so that there can be understanding and encouragement on both sides. Each spouse comes to the relationship with their own story. How they were raised, what they saw modeled as a healthy relationship growing up, and the environment in which they grew up in all contribute to how we relate and interact with our spouse. Part of marriage counseling is seeking to fully understand what our spouses back story is and what role we can play in being a healthy advocate to the areas that need attention. It also involves identifying negative thoughts and behaviors that we default to when times get stressful. The goal is to take two individuals who each have their own strengths and weaknesses and to incorporate those into a healthy couple that functions to strengthen and support each other.
Preparing couples for marriage is important. Studies have found that thorough premarital counseling can reduce the rate of divorce by 30%. Most couples enter into marriage with unrealistic expectations of what it will be like. Taking the time to specifically identify potential trouble spots will give you both a head start to a long and healthy marriage. Investing in your future as a couple is an investment worth making. Through assessments and one on one counseling, you can set your marriage up for the best start possible!
Sex Therapy Alone or With Your Partner
Individual Sex Therapy
Whether you are single, married, divorced, or widowed, we were all created as sexual beings, it is ingrained in who we are. For individuals seeking sex therapy, the reasons typically stem from a distorted view of what healthy sexuality looks like. These distortions are frequently developed from the clients family upbringing or exposure to pornography which can develop into an addiction. Many times they are developed from what culture says is right and “normal.” Sex therapy is like any type of psychotherapy. You treat the condition by talking through your experiences, worries, and feelings. Dan will help you develop coping mechanisms to improve your responses in the future so that you can have a healthier view of sexuality and/or overcome any sexual addictions that you may be struggling with.
With Your Partner
Many couples find it hard to fit a healthy sex life into their busy schedules. It’s perfectly normal for people to go through periods when they’re just not in the mood for lovemaking. However, 43% of women and 31% of men report having some type of sexual dysfunction during their lifetime. If you are experiencing erectile dysfunction, low libido, inability to reach orgasm, premature ejaculation, or lack of interest, you may want to consider sex therapy. Many times there is a history of trauma or abuse for one individual in the relationship. Understanding how this impacts them and how the other partner can play a vital role in the healing process can make all the difference in the world. Seeking treatment for sex problems has become more socially acceptable today, but it’s still not easy for many people to talk to a professional about such an intimate area. Dan will compassionately meet you both where you are at and help you find the sexually healthy life that you desire.
Addiction Counseling for You or a Loved One
Individual Addiction Counseling
Addictions come in many forms. They can be addictions to substances such as alcohol or drugs, gambling, pornography, gaming, phones, or food. Any addiction is a symptom of a deeper underlying issue. The counseling process will help address the addiction by getting to the root cause of what pain the addiction is masking. Dealing with the root cause and developing a comprehensive short and long term plan are key to fighting this battle. With time and commitment to growth, the addiction can be beat!
Loved One Addiction Counseling
Addiction is a disease that affects the entire family. Watching a loved one battle an addiction is a difficult road to travel. However, with the right tools and community around you, it is a road that can be travelled well. Part of counseling an individual or family who has someone in the grips of addiction is helping them define what is helping and what is enabling. It involves determining what healthy boundaries can be set for your health as well as the individual with the addiction.